What If You Made A Decision that feels Wrong…What Now?

Worried Man

I’m a great believer that when you’ve made a decision, the universe “conspires” to make it happen by sending you things, people, circumstances, situations and opportunities to make your vision come true.

This is a quote from one of my favourite authors:

When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.

Paulo Coelho

I think most people’s “expectation” or hope, is that when they’ve made a decision the universe will give them positive signs and good things will happen to validate that the decision was the right one.

But what do you do when instead of good things happening, bad things come at you; instead of smoothness and flow, you are faced with hardships, challenges, frustrations even more obstacles? What if you encounter people who not only make you doubt your choice but also confuse you – maybe even obstruct you?

Does that mean you made the wrong decision in the first place?

Woman Worried

When things don’t go according to plan, it’s very natural to think the worst. You’re not alone. It’s a very human thing. No doubt even the greatest inspirational leaders the world has ever known experienced their personal moments of doubt where their resolve was tested – often to the limit.

And that’s probably a very good word for us to start unravelling things towards seeking the answers.

The word…



To find a solution to a problem.

To decide firmly on a course of action.


A firm determination to do something.

I’m a personal believer that at the point of making a firm decision and committing yourself to something…the universe conspires to help you BUT not always in the way/s you might expect. Your resolve is tested…yes, very likely to the limit.

In fact, I believe it’s something you should expect. And the bigger your dream…the bigger the test to your resolve.

Now what IF…

All of the challenges, hardships and obstacles that suddenly appear in your way are there not to stop you…but to teach you?

What if the pain you are experiencing can be transformed into valuable lessons that will aid you in developing yourself to become a wiser, stronger, more compassionate person?

What if the obstacles are a gift? a gift of knowledge that can help you (not avoid but) face and overcome even greater challenges – should they appear again?

What if your new “gifts” can be imparted to others who may be struggling – where you can give them strength and guidance because you have experienced similar tribulations and came through them an even better person as a result?

What IF…

Instead of viewing things as the universe stopping you…you viewed it as the universe “equipping” you?

Equipping you with valuable and priceless experience, clarity, depth, and wisdom so that when you finally do get what you asked for…not only will you be grateful for it but you will also be truly ready to receive it, appreciate it, enjoy it….and be able to share what you’ve learned – to help others.

Now, assuming (with a leap of faith) you subscribe to all of the above?

The last piece that will lock it all in and give you incredible power of “follow through” is to know…really know…that you’ve made the right decision in the first place.

Here’s how you can tell.

When it makes absolute sense from a thinking point of view combined with feeling right, feeling good…in your heart. Go with it.

Heart and Mind

Because if you’ve made a decision with both your mind and your heart TOGETHER. It can never be the wrong decision. Have Faith in your decision. It’s the exact right path for you at that time.

Before I conclude this blog, I want to give YOU a gift : )

Being a major fan of lists, I made a checklist for you.

I’ve called it:

“How to Stay On Course When You’ve Made the Right Decision” ; )

  • IF a problem, or challenge keeps reoccurring in your life, maybe it’s not the universe punishing or obstructing you – is it possible that perhaps YOU haven’t learned the lesson yet? Maybe it’s time YOU changed?
  • See good experiences (good people, good moments) as “road signs” that you’re headed in the right direction, follow those
  • See all bad & painful things (people, situations) as learning experiences – take what you need from it, in order to make better decisions next time – and keep moving forward
  • Have faith in the outcome by believing in the outcome – everything that happens to you (good and bad) on the way to it, is part of the PROCESS
  • You only fail, when you Quit
  • If you follow your path, with absolute faith and unceasing commitment, it will only be a matter of time until you succeed


Mark Villarosa - Artist, Musician and Digital Entrepreneur

My name is Mark Villarosa. I’m an artist, musician & online entrepreneur. I’m on a mission to inspire and help people create the freedom to follow their passion by starting a business around what they love.

5 Ways to Allow Abundance to Flow into Your Life

River Flowing

You’re probably familiar with this famous saying: “It’s better to give than to receive”

Most of us are taught from a very young age to share with others and to be kind and generous to those less fortunate. As an adult, you may have even volunteered your time and given money to charitable causes helping those who are in need.

These are all worthy and noble actions. But an equally worthy and noble action is one that most people overlook, and that is the ability to “receive” with grace and gratitude.

The two (giving and receiving) form an integral union, a yin yang , a circle of completion through which the universe is allowed to flow freely towards you.

People instinctively know how to give, but it’s surprising how many of us don’t know how to receive.

Nature masterfully shows us the incredibly simple and beautiful way this is done.

Consider your breathing. Every breath that flows from your body is made up of inhaling and exhaling. You take in oxygen…and you breathe out carbon monoxide.

Plants – take in carbon monoxide…and produce oxygen.

Our giving is their receiving. And their giving is our receiving. The dynamic exists in perfect harmony as long as this transaction is fulfilled. This is a law of nature.

So when we ask for what we want, the universe can only send it to us if our hearts are open and expectant to receive. You can’t expect abundance to flow at its fullest capacity through a tiny opening and it cannot flow at all, into one that is closed.

Here are some very simple things you can do to practice opening your heart and strengthening your ability to receive:

  1. Next time someone pays you a compliment, instead of dismissing the gesture or even questioning it – “bask” in the light and warmth of their compliment by receiving it and simply saying “Thank you”.
  2. If someone tries to Thank You, instead of batting it away and saying “Ah, it was nothing”, “Forget about it” or “Don’t worry about it” – receive the thanks and say “My Pleasure”, or “You’re very welcome”.
  3. Change the “meaning” of things you would have formerly considered “disappointing” or “frustrating” and now receive them as “gifts”. Didn’t get that dream job or promotion? Receive that as a blessing. Perhaps you weren’t ready yet? Or there’s a better one on its’ way at a time that’s perfectly right for you.
  4. If it starts raining? instead of seeing it as an irritation or bad weather to dread, receive it as a gift, a life-giving force of nature. Maybe even have fun with it, like kids do (like you used to, remember?) : )
  5. Be mindful to receive the many, many things you may have taken for granted that give beauty, order and direction to your life: The sun rise giving its light, warmth and majesty to inspire you;
Beautiful Sunrise

A job that gives you money to pay your bills; A heart that beats ceaselessly giving you life.

What else would you add to that list?

Place yourself into a state of “receptivity” by giving yourself permission to receive, and seek the gifts in all situations (even the negative ones) with a grateful heart – and you will open the door to a mighty torrent of abundance from a universe just waiting to unleash its blessings upon you.

Mark Villarosa - Digital Entrepreneur

My name is Mark. I’m an artist, musician & online entrepreneur.

I’m also on a mission to inspire and help people create the freedom to follow their passions by starting a business around what they love.

How to Overcome Fearing You Haven’t Achieved Much in Life Yet


Interestingly, this feeling can strike at any age. I remember feeling “old” when I turned 16 and then again at 25!

My friends and I jokingly referred to this feeling of dread and fear in our mid-20s as a “pre-mid-life crisis” crisis.

I think when you get to a certain point in your adult life it becomes natural to think of things like What your life has meant, What you’ve achieved and done so far, and also What’s next?

Person looking into the Beyond

Sometimes, getting older can also bring feelings…of fear.

Have you felt that in your life? Don’t worry, that’s ok…

Your fear is not unfounded. It can be a scary thing to contemplate the unknown.

For me, what has helped me to deal with, live with, manage and overcome feelings of fear is one word, which I believe is a very powerful word…


We are built to feel fear

As human beings, we’re built to feel fear. In many cases it’s actually a very useful thing, it makes us err on the side of caution, it helps us judge a situation where there may be danger, it can even excite us and be fun (like a roller coaster ride at a funfair).

However, where it becomes unhealthy is when that feeling of fear follows us and lives with us constantly in our minds and hearts.

When that happens it’s not helping anymore it’s hindering us from living a full, complete and joyful life.

4 Steps to Overcoming the Fear

  • Start with Acceptance. There has to be a genuine acceptance of where you are in your life right now. Do it gently, and gradually – however you do it will be up to you – but that “positive acceptance” has to happen first. Only after you’ve done that, can you move on to the next steps.
  • Gratitude – If you’ve managed to accept your current situation, you can now shift the focus towards looking for things to be grateful for. There are plenty. Don’t dwell on fear, regret or loss, instead – celebrate ABUNDANCE by focusing on the things that bring you happiness right now. Could be anything from having a roof over your head to enjoying a cup of your favourite drink at the moment : )
  • Find a sense of “Purpose” – think of a project you can devote yourself to. A cause, a movement a charity, a small business. Or…maybe you can (finally) get moving in your spare time on something you’ve put off for a long time. Loved creative writing? Get that first paragraph written. Loved drawing? Buy a sketchpad and start doodling.

A sense of purpose will give you something positive to focus on, look forward to and keep you focused on the future in a new, fresh and exciting way.

  • And last but not least…is the step that binds all the above together. It’s this: Be Present in the Now. Live in the Now.

The best way to live a happy existence is to adopt a state of mind, where you are present when it matters most: Right Now.

Enjoy the journey!


Mark Villarosa - Digital Entrepreneur

My name is Mark Villarosa. I’m a music artist & online entrepreneur.

I’m on a mission to inspire people to follow their passion by starting a business around what they love.